May 22, 2016

Achieve success by following these principles

Saurabh Chawla | | 0 Comments|
Success has different meaning for different people. For some, it could be passing in an examination. For a baby, it could be the first time he/she starts walking on his own feet etc. Depending from person to person, the definition of success changes. If you ask successful people out there about their mantra for success, you will find a different story every time. For each of them, success came to them by following certain principles. Some of the principles, you will find out when you will connect the dots would be somewhat the same. Today, in this post I am going to discuss these principles which can pave your way to success.
1) Pursue what you are expert at:
When you are an expert at something, you automatically become passionate about it. Now the question which I come across is many times by my friends is that they don't know that one thing in which they are expert at. They don't know their hidden talent. They either fail to realize it at all or when they realize it, it's too late (according to them).
"One thing to clear out of your head is to follow your talent and never let it die."
My answer to their questions is that they should change their mindsets. According to me, our minds are cluttered with lot of information which comes to us from multiple sources and we inculcate most of it. This hides our natural reason of our existence. In his book '25 Principles of Success', Jack Canfield has elaborated how knowing the purpose of one's existence is very much useful for achieving success. I agree with him as one gets a defined path to lead his/her life by knowing the true purpose of his/her life.
Secondly, It's never too late to pursue your passion.there are many successful people out there who have started late in their lives and achieved great  success. One thing to clear out of your head is to follow your talent and never let it die.
2) Focus is the main thing:
Many times I have seen (including me), that focus is lost by many during their journey. The main purpose of getting there is not to lose focus. When you fail, try not to get distracted from your course and focus on your target. There will be many obstacles, many people will try to stop you from reaching your target but you need to stay focused on your ultimate goal.
Try to treat these obstacles as building blocks which will ultimately take you to your ultimate goal.
3) Make realistic and meaningful goals:
I have seen people making totally unachievable and meaningless targets reaching to nowhere. For reaching to a target, it ust be clearly defined and meaningful. Set the time limits which you believe that you can achieve. Don't look how fast your competitor achieved it. There are several reasons behind it. Maybe his luck was with him and yours is not. Maybe he had all the needed resources but you lack in them. There can be numerous such reasons for you to achieve success taking more time than your competitor.
"Imagine that if you achieve success that easily, would you be satisfied?"
Another thing which I want to elaborate here is that you should try and make your goals very specific. This way you will achieve the target more easily as your mind will be focused on that one specific goal.
4) Giving up is not accepted:
There might be several factors which will lead you toward deciding that you want to give up. There may be failures, there may be a reason like you have thrown everything at it etc. My advice is that you should never give up. Keep in mind that every problem has a solution. Keep in mind that you just haven't found the exact solution to it. Failures are stepping stones for your success and you learn to succeed by failing. Imagine that if you achieve success that easily, would you be satisfied? Ask this question to yourself when you decide to give up!

May 18, 2016

Are You Living On Expectations Of Others?

Saurabh Chawla | | | 3 Comments|

do something today fr your future life quotes

There comes a time in everybody's life when people realize that they is not living. The feeling is followed by constant showering of one question to god, 'Is this the life?' 

Where do you think the problem lies? The society in which you are living or is it inside you or the people you stick around with during the course of your life? many of the readers will have one thing revolving in their head, 'Destiny' and some will have the notion that the present is direct consequence of karma of the past life!'

Both points are valid in their true essence but sometimes they can not be held true. It's very easy to say, 'I was not able to study for the exam because destiny doesn't want me to pass it this time.' Not impressed? Here's another one, 'That person is rich because he has done very good karma in his past life.' This happens with almost all of us right?

The truth is that we are living the life but living the expectations. The process starts even before the birth. Parents starts weaving out expectations list even before the birth takes place. Below are few of the expectations that are common:

  • Father says he will be doctor
  • Mother says he will be an engineer
  • Grandparents say that he will be a lawyer
  • Adding to the fun, teachers say that iska kuch nahii ho sakta (he is useless :D )
The last one is added as complaints students receive in general from teachers :D. While growing up, from clothes to school to marks that are desired from the child are tied together in a parcel and gifted to the child. 

In India, even the child becomes so much dependent on other people's decisions that he is not capable of taking decisions for his life, not even his marriage. He depends on his parent's decisions, society's thinking to select his life partner. The situations that can arise are listed below:

  • If the marriage succeeds then it's okay. If it doesn't work, the person will blame his parents for his entire life.
  • The fights will be regular and common with most of the life will be spent in useless revenge.
  • The life will take an ugly turn if one is dragged to court with entire future ruined.
  • Society will not stay quiet. People will keep talking every now and then. Its their habit of talking. They follow it religiously like a daily errand.   
I recently read a quote which I feel like sharing here:

jiska koi nahi hota uski arranged marriage hoti hai funny quote on arranged marriage
 

 This is not in the case of marriage only but in life too. Marriage is just only a part of life. Then comes the part of luck. Sometimes even after hard work, the things go wrong. It's not like to blame others or life for this, but what you expected out of it. 

If people sit and think about the life they are living is actually based on their wish or they are living on other people's expectations? 

If you search for the top most regret of people who are dying, you will get to know that living your life on your own terms is essential. Otherwise, you will not be a living being but a piece of walking dead meat.

May 10, 2016

Horn OK, No Please!

Saurabh Chawla | | 5 Comments|

If you have been tired of being in noise for quite a long time, you are not alone. There are lots of people out there suffering from the chaos this noise has created in their lives. 

The usual sources are there which are deemed to make noise but some sources are introduced by forced means. One such source which we would be discussing today is unnecessary honking on the roads.

reasons people honk in india
Why do people honk? Let's get back to this question later on. Before thinking on this question, give a deep thought to the questions below. It's better if you could ask these questions to yourself:

  1. Why do I honk?

  2. Do I honk unnecessarily or I do it genuinely?

  3. Am I doing it as a habit?

  4. What was my feeling when I pressed the horn?

Simply write down answers to the questions above. What do you observe?

Coming back to the reason why people honk, let's discuss possible reasons which I have felt people who honk on the roads, why they do it:

  1. It has become a habit

Accept it or not, honking on the roads has become a habit that  has no end. People are so obsessed with the honking that even on the traffic signals they are tempted to honk even though the signal is RED.

Have you come across a person honking outside someone's house in a residential locality? I bet you must have come across someone like that. They don't do it because they are just waiting for a person to step out of the house or for fun, it's because of their bad habit of surrounding themselves in the noise.

The thing which they forget is that honking is prohibited in residential areas, near hospitals, near schools. But there is no respect for the laws.

  1. Temptation to hide what they are feeling

Have you see the cases of road rage personally? I have seen. Someone had a fight at home. Someone just got fired. All these frustrations, anger, feeling of sadness etc are negative emotions. People hide their anger, frustration under the noise of the horn.

This happens because after facing such situations, the world, the people living around appear negative to them. The fact is that they never changed, they were the same since the beginning. The only thing that changed was their point of view about other people.

Even when the people are happy, they honk! Consider a bus driver or a truck driver rhyming a tune of  a popular song  using horns.

The best way is to take a public transport to avoid such a temptation of honking under the influence of some temporary feeling.

  1. Patience is for the ancient civilization

A lot many times people might have felt that there is sudden increase in traffic and there is a strong urge for honking. The myth is that the traffic will be cleared by honking – the truth is exactly the opposite.

The traffic will be cleared out by moving and not honking. If this simple concept is digestible by the people, noise pollution can be reduced significantly.

Have patience, hold on and keep moving slowly. Everything will be sorted out at its own pace. Honking unnecessarily will only cause more trouble.

  1. No respect for traffic rules

You might be thinking that what it has to do with honking. But there is a big problem when people don't follow traffic rules.

People take sharp cuts, they overtake from the wrong direction and the rule which is violated is being on the wrong side of the road, entering a 'no entry zone' to be precise. It will obviously cause people to blow horn unnecessarily.

  1. Use of wrong things at the wrong places and at the wrong time

With the rising use of smartphones, people are getting equally dumb at the same time. They are hooked to the mobile phones on roads, while taking a bus, on the stairs, everywhere.

The worst time is while driving. It not only slows them down by distraction but also irritates the person behind them waiting for him to move on. When they don't the honking starts!    

One of the valid reasons which was said by Gunjan Bagla and published in Forbes Magazine's Article holds true for Indian drivers:

Honking gives every driver the belief that somehow they will mitigate the risk of a collision.”          

Honking is not bad but doing it unnecessarily and pointlessly is awful. It will hamper the  concentration power of the mind and can severely damage the ears if exposed for long duration.

Already the air pollution and water pollution are adversely affecting people's health in India, adding on to it by noise is  like digging our own grave.

With this post, I would like to direct the concerned authorities to keep a check on the noise levels and several measures to be taken to eliminate the bad habit of honking among people.

Next time you see the caption behind any truck, simply keep in mind one thing, 'Horn OK, No Please!'   
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