In today's post, I would like to introduce a whole new powerful tool which is often neglected by many out there. The simple thing it requires is some courage. We hold back because we can't manage to confront someone unknown or even if the person is known also to put our demands in front of them. Let me ask you all a question. How many of you genuinely go towards your boss's cabin and ask for an increment in the salary? I would say hardly any of us go and it includes me as well. Right! I am also in the same boat as you all. Another example I have seen with many of us is that in our relationships, we just stop ourselves to ask something from our closest friend, from the girl you love but afraid to ask her out because of the fear that you may spoil your relations. Have you ever gave it a thought the other way round?
Below I would like to mention the top 3 things which will totally change your mindset and will boost your confidence which will help you grow in your personal as well as professional life.
"Try asking the girl you love, maybe she can say yes, you don't know or maybe you just get too much negative about it. Now just think about it this way. If she rejects you, would you be willing to be with her your entire life? No!"
1) It's all up in the mind:
You might be thinking that this is the tagline of the website, right? But if you give it a thought, it's about your mindset all the time which rules your life. Now about asking someone like your boss for an appraisal and you are afraid to approach him, just think about it the other way that if you demand for an appraisal, it will be done. Believe me, if you have worked hard and you know from your internal system that you deserve that much appraisal, you will get that hike for sure. The other scenario could be that you may have to switch your job for that appraisal in your salary. Staying positive and focused is the key.
2) It saves you time:
This I learned from my life that if you don't know anything, ask for it from someone who is expert at it. When I used this thing in practical life, I realized that it can hell save a lot of time. You ask from them, you learn from them. I didn't know how to start a blog. A friend of mine was a popular blogger who helped me in setting up my blog but with her help I made friends with lots of awesome bloggers out there. I did nothing except ASKING her to help me out and she agreed.
3) Your path gets cleared out:
The best gift I got was always when I asked for it. Try asking the girl you love, maybe she can say yes, you don't know or maybe you just get too much negative about it. Now just think about it this way. If she rejects you, would you be willing to be with her your entire life? No! This way by asking her the truth, you get a chance to put your life on a track an find a life partner whom you would be willing to spend your life with. It's just a matter of a little adjustment in the mind and nothing else.
I would like to share my small experience I had recently when I was traveling in the Metro to my office. A guy was sketching with color pencils as usual artists fiddle with their pencils. Later I realized that he sketched me exactly how I was standing in matter of few minutes. I was surprised by the talent. He drew many other people's portrait but nobody cared. I gained some courage and approached the guy asking about to take the picture of the drawing. He smilingly agreed. I am sharing the picture with this post.
You want something, ask for it. Believe me, if you don't ask for it chances are that you are rejecting yourself for that one thing.
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My team lead taught me this over the last few months :) It is better to ask than to keep it locked up - What is the worst that can happen anyway. I have the satisfaction of having tried.ReplyDelete
Yes Prajakta! You will get unnoticd if you don't ask. Thanks for reading :)Delete
That sentence connects to me so well, because of the experiences I had in my life :) This is a bright topic that you have brought out forth SaurabhReplyDelete
Thanks a lot Tara! Glad it is relatable :)Delete